Kinderwood Parenting Blog

23 February 2014

Should Toddlers Share With Others?

Parents want their children to share with others, but is forcing the issue such a good idea?  True sharing, the kind that comes from a desire within, requires empathy, something that most children don't develop until they are 4 or 5 years old.  Toddlers aren't able to perceive the experiences of others, and often share because we tell them to, despite how naturally possesive they are of toys at that age.  Of course, we've all seen the sparks of empathy in very young children, so why not focus on developing that rather than insisting they share?  

15 February 2014

Every Day is Valentine's Day!

 
Every year, many parents around the world make it a point to tell their children how much they love them.  Whether it is through treats, a family movie night or a Valentine’s card, the message is clear: I love you and you’re special to me!  It’s a fun tradition, but if you really want to see your child’s eyes light up, try making every day Valentine’s Day! 

09 February 2014

Developing Secure, Trusting Relationships with Children

 
Most people agree that it’s important for children to develop secure, trusting relationships with their caregivers, but not everyone agrees on how to do it.  There are so many theories that it boggles the mind.  How is a parent to choose? 
 
One term that’s become increasing popular is attachment parenting.  The phrase is often associated with babywearing, co-sleeping and breastfeeding, but there’s a lot more to it than that and plenty of parents feel they’re doing a good job without those things.  And they’re right.  In fact, many parents are probably using attachment parenting without knowing that they are.

31 January 2014

What Happened to the Good Old Days?

 
“Children don’t respect adults anymore.”
 
 “I never talked back to my parents when I was little.”
 
“Kids don’t do what they’re told these days.”
 
Sound familiar?  Maybe you’ve heard or said similar things, and often with the question: what happened?  It’s a good question.  Gone are the days when a teacher could expect silence and obedience in a classroom, or when all Dad had to do was give a stern look to keep the children in line.  So, why do kids behave so differently in this day and age?

15 March 2013

How to Handle Tantrums

Childhood tantrums.  Every parent has had to deal with them.  They can be brief, last hours, happen every day or maybe just once in a while.  Two things are certain: they are never fun, and they almost always trigger feelings of frustration, anger, embarrassment or shame, especially in public.  In my last blog post, I suggested ways to help parents regain their composure so that they can make a choice about how they want to respond to their children.  Some may be thinking, “Okay, now that I’ve reclaimed reason, what’s the next step?  What option do I choose to best deal with this situation?”

07 March 2013

Practical Tips for Keeping Your Cool

 
Most parents never intend to lose their cool when dealing with children.  You’d like to stay connected, be empathic and nurturing.  You’d like to set firm limits but still be loving.  Maybe you’ve even read about taking a ‘self time out’ during stressful interactions and want to give that a try.  But then something happens.  Your three year old starts begging for treats at the grocery store, or your picky eater throws a bowl of spaghetti at the wall, and all those good intentions just fly right out the window. Adrenaline pumps, emotions rise (anger, frustration, embarrassment, fear, stress or feelings of powerlessness) and they kick your rational brain to the curb, triggering the fight or flight response.